Dual-Careers in Academia

A career move by Ruth Ley that "breaks all the rules"

2009-05-29T15:07:00.000-07:00

I loved this candid story by Ruth Ley. Here's an excerpt from her post.

Don't let the stereotypes about two-body problems get you down. If you both build up your CVs, the doors open.

When I was in graduate school, I had arbitrary rules for myself based on a stereotype I had about what a successful independent scientist would do. Rule #1: Never follow a man. Rule #2: Never live in the Midwest. Rule #3: Never postdoc for more than 4 years. Breaking all those rules at once was the best thing I ever did for my career.

Many people meet their life partners at work, and we were no exception: I met Lars Angenent while we were both doing postdocs at the University of Colorado. We were in different departments, but Lars was doing part of his project in the lab I was working in. The only problem was, we didn't realize we were each other's life partners until 2 weeks after my future husband left the state for an assistant professor position at Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri. So, it was too late to bargain for another job, and besides, at that stage--just starting out in our relationship and in our careers--it didn't really cross our minds that we should move together. When Lars would say, "You're moving to St. Louis," I'd laugh, thinking it was a joke. That was rules one and two combined.

So, with no job solution in sight, I started to look for a second postdoc in St Louis. Breaking all the rules seemed like the only option.

While I was having a great time as a postdoc, my by-then husband was doing well as an assistant professor. His phone started to ring: Other institutions were recruiting him. Word got around that he was available and he got more phone calls. He'd tell them right away that there were two of us, and he'd send my CV over. Then I'd get a call. In several cases, people in the engineering department--where he was sought--would send my CV to the medical school to see if any particular department was interested in me. Then word got around that I, too, was available, and I started to get my own calls. It was an exciting time: The timing was perfect for both of us to be on the job market.

We ended up with several competing offers. We chose Cornell University because it offered the best overall fit for our family. We are in different departments, but our buildings are side by side.

Lessons learned? One: It took a little longer to solve the two-body problem than I might have liked, but it ended up helping me tremendously down the line--so be patient. Two: Some people are worth violating your rules for. And Three: There's more to those "flyover" states in the Midwest than what you can see from the airplane.

What if Michelle Obama could have career and family as First Lady?

2009-05-29T12:47:00.000-07:00

Michelle Obama’s decision to choose Mom-in-Chief brings the challenges of dual-career couples to the forefront. On June 16, the Stanford University’s Clayman Institute for Gender Research is tackling these issues in a free conference June 16 titled, Dual-Career Academic Couples: Strategies and Opportunities.

If you are unable to attend, send us your questions, and we'll ask the panelists. You can choose to ask either the Administrators or Couples.

For more information on the panelists, check out our video.

Opting Back In

2009-03-10T09:30:00.000-07:00

The March 6, 2009 Forbes article titled, Why Women Who Opted Out Are Opting Back In, points to changing work patterns in today's times of economic uncertainty. In many families, women income earners play an increasingly important role in the family income, either as the sole or primary bread winners.

This shift toward dual-career families raises questions of how to succeed at home as well as at work. According to Amy Keroes, who runs Mommytrack'd, a Web site for professional women who wrestle with work-family balance, working women are still doing 70% of the housework.

Finding solutions for the family is discussed in the book, Getting to 50/50: How working couples can have it all by sharing it all. Authors Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober focus on how to ensure both work and families win in dual career households.

This area of research is particularly interesting as we have published our study titled, Dual-Career Academic Couples: What universities need to know. While the Clayman Institite study focuses on practices, policies and programs to successfully navigate a dual career, the 50/50 book does the same for family life.

When attending the book discussion at the Women's Community Center at Stanford University, I took away some key tips that could apply to dual-career couples in academia, business and industry. My two favorite tips were:

Shrink the size of the pie: I often get overwhelmed by my high standards for how the homelife should be. Organic, organized and quality time is my mantra. The authors suggest that by shrinking the size of the pie, we can find a way to manage it all. Perhaps Mac-n-cheese for dinner once in a while is not such a bad thing
Praise and acceptance: instead of criticizing my partner for the work he does around the household, I could instead appreciate his efforts. This has been going a long way toward our own dual-career happiness!

Dual-Career Academic Couples: Strategies and Opportunities, June 16,2009

2009-03-03T12:41:00.000-08:00

The Clayman Institute invites you to join us for an afternoon conference titled Dual-Career Academic Couples: Strategies and Opportunities. This conference brings together administrators, faculty, and graduate students to discuss key issues and strategies arising from our report: Dual-Career Academic Couples: What Universities Need to Know. Key questions include:

How can universities attract and retain the best talent?
Does couple hiring help build a more diverse, equitable, and competitive workforce?
How can couples best negotiate a dual-career path?
What policies or practices have universities put in place surrounding this issue? What works, and what does not?
What role can the Higher Education Recruitment Consortium play?

Registration is free and open to all. Registration opens on March 6, 2009.

Getting to 50/50: How Working Couples Can Have it All by Sharing it All

2009-02-09T23:31:00.000-08:00

The Clayman Institute for Gender Research at Stanford is pleased to announce a book launch : Getting to 50/50: How Working Couples Can Have it All by Sharing it All (Bantam 2009). By Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober.

Sharon Meers was a Managing Director at Goldman, Sachs & Co. until April 2005. She serves on the advisory council of the Clayman Institute. Sharon and her husband, Steve, founded the Partnership for Parity at the Stanford Graduate School of Business School and the Dual-Career Initiative at Harvard. Together with co-author Joanna Strober, currently Managing Director of a fund investing in private equity partnerships at Sterling Stamos Capital Management and daughter-in-law of the Institute's founding director Professor Emerita Myra Strober, this new book provides tools and presents an action plan for couples on how to implement a 50/50 solution for tackling the conflicting priorities of child care, job demands, and home life responsibilities.

This event is co-sponsored by the Women's Community Center, Faculty Women's Forum and American Association of University Women (Palo Alto Chapter).

Wednesday, February 11, 2009, 12:00 - 1:30 pm. Free and open to all.

Location: Women's Community Center, First Floor, Old Fire Truck House, 433 Santa Teresa Street, Stanford, CA.

Books will be available for sale at the event. www.gettingto5050.com

Do you have a 50/50 relationship?

2008-12-19T08:50:00.000-08:00

I'm reading a preview copy of a great new book by local authors Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober: "Getting to 50/50" (to be published by Bantam Books in February 2009). The book is about how couples (typically with kids) can arrange their lives so that the woman can have a fulfilling career and the man can have a fulfilling family life with all the benefits that both of those things can bring to everyone in the family. I've just got through chapter one. I've waved it at my husband a couple of times, but he's put off by the way its obviously written for a female reader. Ah well, I'll just have to read him choice bits out loud as he sits at the computer working in the evenings.... More to come as I read!

Marilyn and Irvin Yalom on being a dual-career academic couple

2008-11-19T14:02:00.000-08:00

On January 29, 2009, Marilyn and Irvine Yalom will be in conversation with Mark Gonnerman as part of the Stanford Aurora Forum's creative couples series. Starting at 7:30pm, the conversation will take place at the Kresge Auditorium. Free and Open to All

In the course of over fifty years of married life and raising four children, Irvin and Marilyn Yalom have made marks in their respective fields of psychotherapy and women’s studies with contributions through teaching and research leading to the publication of academic papers and popular books. Last year, they each presented their own research into death: Irv’s Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death and Marilyn’s The American Resting Place: Four Hundred Years of History Through our Cemeteries and Burial Grounds. Our conversation will begin with the Yaloms’ poignant explorations of human finitude and then turn to the story of their time together as a dual-career academic couple.

Are you in the sciences?

2008-08-30T22:23:00.000-07:00

Our Dual-Career Academic Couples study revealed that 83% of female scientists in a dual-career couple are partnered with another academic; compared to 54% of male scientists. This suggests that dual-career issues are of particular importance for universities which are committed to increasing the number of women on the science faculty. Are you an academic scientist, male or female, partnered or not? What do you think?

Our report does not talk about scientists outside academia. Are you a scientist or engineer in industry, nonprofit or the public service? What are your experiences? Do you meet many dual-career couples? Do your employers set out to help people in dual-career relationships? What resources do they offer?

And do you think it is right for employers to be creating special programs to assist dual career couples, whether inside or outside academia? Have your say!

Report covered in Times Higher Ed (UK)

2008-08-27T21:27:00.000-07:00

Nice story about the Dual-Career Academic Couples report in this week's issue of the UK's Times Higher Education newspaper, with comment based on a UK study of British academics, and a comment from the University of Liverpool, which has a published dual-career policy.

Have you ever said no?

2008-08-21T16:03:00.000-07:00

Have you ever turned down a job offer because your partner couldn't find a suitable job? Have you ever been in a position when you've asked your prospective employer to find your partner a suitable job? Share your stories with us.

Dual-Careers report now available

2008-08-20T09:06:00.000-07:00

The Dual-Careers Academic Couples report is now available for download, free of charge, from our website.

Watch out for Chronicle Higher Ed story

2008-08-14T12:30:00.000-07:00

Only 6 days till the Dual-Career report is launched. Watch out for a story in the Chronicle of Higher Ed on August 20.

So, have you thought about your future?

2008-08-09T21:49:00.001-07:00

You're in your late 20s. A graduate student. You're in a relationship with another graduate student, maybe in the same discipline. Your partner is going on the job market this year, you plan to be on the job market next year.

What thought have you given to the implications of all this? Whose career will come first? How will you decide? Is living in the same place a priority? If you plan to live apart, how long do you think your relationship will survive the separation - do you have a deadline for finding jobs together?

And what happens if/when kids come along?

It's not unusual for young academics to live hundreds, even thousands of miles away from each other, with all the stresses and strains that places on relationships; and let's not even get started on the costs of running two households and commuting to see each other occasionally. (Some friends of a friend are a British couple who live in Oxford and Paris (and they have two small kids, growing up French). Forget the problems of living in different states, they are living in different countries! This is not just an issue in the USA!)

What's your experience? What compromises are you prepared to make to keep your dual-career academic relationship alive?

Dual-Career Report to Launch on August 20

2008-08-04T14:26:00.000-07:00

At last! Our report on dual-career academic couples will be launched on Wednesday August 20. It will be available on our website for free download. Watch out for the news release from the Stanford News Service.

Join our Dual-Careers group on Facebook

2008-07-10T18:22:00.000-07:00

Did you know that about 85% of college students are members of Facebook? (At least, I keep hearing that figure being repeated!) Would you like to connect with other people in a dual-career relationship; or people who aren't yet, but are wondering how they achieve that elusive work-life balance if they get into a relationship with another professional person (and what happens when the kids come along...)? If the answer is "yes", then join us on Facebook: the group is called Dual-Career Couples and this link should get you there: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=19917687614

Dual-Career weblinks

2008-07-10T18:16:00.000-07:00

Visit the Clayman Institute’s website at http://www.stanford.edu/group/gender/Links/index.html to find links to information on dual-career services and policies. While they’re mainly related to the academic world, you’ll find some links for non-academics too, and more coming every day! If you see something out there on the internet that looks like a useful addition, let us know.

Dual-Career report coming soon

2008-06-17T16:11:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the Michelle R. Clayman Institute for Gender Research's blog for all things to do with dual-career hiring and retention issues in academia. Over the past two years, we've been working on a large survey-based study of dual-career hiring practices in the US. Over 9,000 faculty from 13 leading research universities responded to our survey. They are spread across the country, from coast to coast, and represent faculty at both public and private institutions.

Who should read our report? Everyone who is interested in the strength and continuing success of the US university sector! It's clear from the demographics that dual-career hiring will be the next great challenge to face our higher education system. If you are a faculty member (or someone who wants to have a professorial career), read our report to learn how individuals tend not to negotiate in their best interests. And if you are a university administrator working on faculty recruitment, retention, or diversity, our report will help you understand where you need to go from here.

Coming in August!